If you read my last post, Celebrating Valentine’s Day in Quarantine, you’ll know that I’m all about cute date ideas and expressing love to your partner. However, it is evident that a lot of people stay in an unhappy relationship as they feel trapped or don’t know if they should end it or not. Staying in a relationship long after it’s ran it’s natural course can be detrimental to both you and your partner’s mental health, unfortunately often leading to both people becoming spiteful towards each other. In today’s post, we’ll be exploring the power of walking away from a man when you feel like the relationship downsides outweigh the benefits:
The Power of Walking Away From a Man
Walking away from a man who doesn’t value you or appreciate your worth is an extremely powerful thing to do as a woman. The power of walking away from a man is that you are portraying to him that you will not settle for less than you feel you deserve. You will not stay with a man purely because it is the more comfortable and easy option. You are showing him that he needs to continuously show his love and support towards you throughout the relationship. Don’t get me wrong, not every relationship is sunshine and rainbows all the time.
However, if there are more bad times than good and you find yourself regularly feeling more unhappy than happy due to the relationship, maybe it is time to start questioning if it is the right relationship for you. Accepting a relationship that you both once felt content and happy in has ran it’s course can be an extremely difficult thing to come t terms with and admit. It can also be a difficult question to ask yourself, as it can almost feel as though you’re defying the man you love. However, staying in an unhappy relationship means you are only defying yourself, and your happiness comes first – always. Here are some questions you should be asking yourself to decide if the relationship is coming to an end…
Questions to ask yourself
- Does this relationship bring value to my life?
- Do the pros of this relationship outweigh the cons?
- Do I find myself dreading spending quality time with my partner?
- Do I feel valued and appreciated in the relationship?
- Do me and my partner have more bad times than good?
- Is my partner pushing me to exceed or holding me back?
- Has the trust between me and my partner been broken?
So, should you walk away?
Essentially, your relationship is meant to add value to and improve your life. Your partner should make you feel loved and special, and you should make them feel the same. There should be a mutual respect in a relationship, otherwise it can end up being one-sided which isn’t fair on either of you.
Additionally, the power of walking away from a man is more attractive than ever. He may notice that you know your self-worth and won’t put up with, excuse my French, bullshit. Therefore, this may push him to eventually become the boyfriend you’ve always dreamed of. A man who also sees your self-worth and treats you as special as you deserve.
You may be thinking ‘What if I walk away and he doesn’t chase me?’ well there’s your answers. If he doesn’t chase you or try to reconcile things with you, he wasn’t the boy you’ve always dreamed of. You deserve someone who will do anything to keep you and doesn’t want to see you walk away. If you walk away and your man doesn’t chase you, he probably didn’t appreciate having you in the first place. There’s your answer – the relationship probably wasn’t a right fit.
Here are some book recommendations (affiliate links) I recommend if you’d like to become a more powerful, independent woman:
Feminists Don’t Wear Pink (And Other Lies)*
Women Don’t Owe You Pretty* (my personal fave!)
Ghosts* (fiction by Dolly Alderton)
Everything I Know About Love* (another fave, Dolly Alderton is a goddess)
Why Men Love Bitches* (a TikTok and Instagram sensation)
If you are even questioning whether you should walk away from your relationship, there may be some discussion and conversation you ad your partner need to have in order to improve the quality of the relationship. However, if things don’t improve within a few weeks or months, the decision is yours. Make sure it’s the right one and you consistently remember your self-worth, as that is the true power of walking away from a man.
If you are currently going through a breakup/heartbreak and need some help, I have a whole blog post about How to Get Over a Breakup During Quarantine/Self-Isolation that has some tips to help you get through this hard time. My DM’s also open on Instagram and Twitter if you need a chat! <3
I’ve been in relationships in the past that haven’t added to my life, and in one way or another actually brought me down! I think it’s so important and healthy to know when a relationship isn’t right for you.
Katie | katieemmabeauty.com
I’m so glad to hear you’re out of those relationships now! Thank you so much for reading girl, hope you’re good xx
I can’t say I’ve ever been in a situation where I’ve needed to walk away from a man, but I’ve ended relationships for women I’ve dated because they were abusive, I even wrong a blog post about it
I’ll definitely read your blog post – that sounds super interesting!
I’ve been here before and it feels like such a weight has been lifted even if you didn’t realise there was one there before. Single is always better than settling x
It definitely does lift a weight off your shoulder! Thank you so much for reading Sophie <3 x
Great post which will help a lot of people, Soph! I had a really toxic relationship when I was 17 which still kinda affects me now, which I didn’t realise until I started life coaching! x
I really hope it does help some people! I also didn’t realise my relationships have been toxic until after I’ve left, so it’s super important to raise awareness of <3 x
It is so important to walk away from a significant other if they are not right for you. These questions are important for evaluation. Sometimes, you don’t know you’re in a toxic relationship until you look at it from a high level. Walking away is the hardest decision to make but worthwhile for the best, especially if both sides keep trying and issues keep coming up
I definitely agree, Nancy! I’ve had multiple times that I only realised I was in an unhappy relationship once I’ve walked away from it, although it was super hard at the time. Thank you so much for reading, gal! xx
It is so important to walk away from a man when you’re not feeling like you’re benefitting or anything. If you feel like you’re being drained, cut that out! I found myself walking away in the past, and never looked back. It turned out for the better 🙂
Nancy ✨ mdrnminimalists.com
It’s definitely so important, but also can be super difficult to do when you’re in the situation! I’m really proud of you for walking away Nancy xx